Breakup website becomes book

May 5, 2011, recounts when people knew their relationship was doomed. Elder wrote the new book It Was Over When... (April 2011) as an extension of the popular website.

Here are some quotes: It Was Over When...

He thought Dinosaurs were a conspiracy theory. -- Noel (Aftermath: I pretended I didn't hear)

His wife called me to find out where she could send the divorce papers.- Ali (Aftermath: She and I are friends. Who knows where he is)

He cried during the last Lord of the Rings movie. -- Kelly (Aftermath: He cried when I broke up with him too)

It Was Over When...: Tales of Romantic Dead Ends
By: Robert K. Elder

A "they-said-what?!" compilation from uber-popular A snapshot of modern romance gone bad, complete with its complexities and contradictions, It Was Over When… compiles the best user-submitted stories of lost love from its companion website ( to create a greatest hits collection of cringe-worthy relationship-enders.

The moment you realize your romance is doomed can be funny, sad, and sometimes both-but it is nearly always resonant, therapeutic, and universal. This is a spot-on voyeuristic guide to navigating the landmine-riddled field of love. was founded in August of 2009 and went viral with more than half a million hits in its first two months. The site receives thousands of daily readers and hundreds of submissions. This book includes only the best stories, divided into thematic chapters, roughly 100 words per story, about each "moment when."

Robert K. Elder is a journalist and author whose work has appeared in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, Premiere,, and numerous other publications. From 2000 to 2009, Elder was a staff writer at the Chicago Tribune. He is the creator of It Was Over When and It Was Love When. Pulitzer-winner Studs Terkel calls Elder "a journalist in the noblest tradition," in his introduction to Elder's book, Last Words of the Executed (University of Chicago Press, 2010)-an oral history of the death penalty, as told from the gallows, the chair, and the gurney. Elder has appeared on WBEZ, WCKG, WGN radio, and television shows such as WTTW's Chicago Tonight and CLTV's Metromix, the TV Show.

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