Monday's question came from Monday's question came from Janice in Chicago.
She wrote: "Although I am good friends with my ex, I sometimes think he thinks he has me on 'reserve' since I am not actively dating. I have a full life, but how do I tell or show him that it's over without being mean or petty? I refuse to be the back-up reserve."
Val, Ji, Ryan and comedian Chris Redd share their advice
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