Like millions of Americans watching the Oscars, community psychologist Dr. Obari Cartman couldn't believe what was unfolding on stage between two of Hollywood's biggest entertainers.
WATCH: Will Smith's shocking Oscars stage confrontation with Chris Rock
"I think the perspective is, the larger conversation we're having about manhood," Cartman said. "The larger conversation we've had by Will Smith for a long time about him being soft, compared him to Tupac, Jada's ex. You see Tupac as hard, you see Will Smith as soft. That rigid, narrow conversation about manhood, I think turns into moments like this."
They are moments Cartman works to prevent by creating safe spaces for Black men to come together to process their experiences and emotions.
WATCH: Chicago comedy scene reacts to Oscars drama
"In Chicago, we talk about people dying because a man can't regulate their ego," Cartman said. "We couch it in the language that is 'protect Black women' or 'protect the community.' But it's much more about protecting his own image."
Which is why some are calling Will Smith's actions a show of toxic masculinity. Cartman said Smith should have consulted with wife Jada.
"I imagine she would have said, 'just calm down. We'll handle this later,'" he said.
MORE: Oscars drama shines light on Jada Pinkett Smith's alopecia, condition that causes hair loss
Carl H. Tutt Jr. is the immediate past board chairman of 100 Black Men Chicago. He agrees that Smith's response was wrong. Tutt hopes the actor uses this mistake as a teachable moment for young men.
"This is a perfect time for him to be able to lend himself and talk about how we can do a better job of conflict resolution and maybe this can have a better overall impact with the violence that we have," Tutt Jr. said.
WATCH: Will Smith's full acceptance speech